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Wednesday, November 23, 2011

Lagi seminggu due date mama bersalin.
Esok dah masuk ww39.Amina kurang bergerak tp byk mengeras. Hari-hari mama rasa mcm nk bersalin tp tak jugak2 "bom".Jiran & kawan2 ramai tegur perut mama dah jatuh,means anytime je bersalin.Tapi mama tak harap dlm 2-3 hari ni sbb baru melantak petai jeruk dr Pahang buatan mak.Mau pengsan nurse or doc yg serve nti..huhuhu.
Kak Mas pon ada pesan, nti darah berbau. Tp bila ingat after bersalin dah tak leh mkn sbb bpantang & menyusu, baik melantak dulu.

2 hari lps pegi rutin weekly check up.Nurse concern weight mama naik 2 kg within 1 week." Sy mkn mcm biasa je" Dh x leh pk sbb mkn apa. Berak pon hari2.Latest 62kg. harap berjaya la mama turunkn time b'pntang nti.

Disebabkn hb mama low,10.6,mama mkn 2 biji sehari pil zatbesi.Baru tak mengah sgt naik tangga or berdiri lama.Tp najis mmg tukar kaler hitam.

Mama still praktik minum susu kmbing hi-goat utk kurangkn risiko bayi kuning.Tips lain amalkn kurma sebiji sehari, tp ni pon culas. Supplement still amik Salindah.Start 9 bulan lg mama dah minum air kelapa utk kulit badan bayi yg cantik & kulit kepala tak berkerak. Kita hanya berusaha.Plg utama supaya Amina x mewarisi penyakit alergi & kulit sensitif mcm mama.


About Aqil, baru kebah demam.Hari2 pon nangis bila nk hntr nursery. Hari2 nk mama masukkan dlm buaian Mawar kat nursery or beli gula2 dulu. Sudahnye mama pon hari2 la buat taktik masuk lmbt keja.Sama ada bwk Aqil pg scan card kat opis dulu,then baru hntr pi nursery. Parking kena la jauh skit dr guard wlpn guard tu sporting x de la show sgt kan.Aqil plak mama suh duduk spy org x nmpk.Taktik lain plak, klu dah lebih 5 minit tu mama tak scan card lg,tulis kat buku je.Mmg teruk kan, tp ni le realiti org yg dah x dek mood keja.

Mama pon dah daftar Aqil tadika Kemas utk tahun depan. Tak tau la Aqil bersedia ke tak nk bersekolah. Memandangkn mama pon tak keja nti, ok la cuba yg murah dulu. just RM10 je sebulan. Cuma risau time bpantang nti, klu Aqil x nk ke nursery & mama pon x smpi hati nk paksa dia, mmg merana la nk handle dua2 anak dgn bpantang sndri.Mama harap kekuatan Ita (kwn kampus) yg baru melahirkn bb ke5 smlm & bpntg sndri bleh dijadikn inspirasi buat mama.

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Parenting Without Yelling

Why Do Parents Yell?

Parents love their kids. So why do they yell at them? Here are just some reasons:

• Kids don’t listen when parents speak in a normal tone of voice
• Parents come from parents who yelled at them so it just comes “naturally”
• Parents are tired & stressed
• Parents don’t realize how much damage is caused by yelling

What Damage is Caused by Yelling?

There are short-term and long-term negative consequences of frequently yelling at kids. Here are some short-term results:

• More misbehavior at home and/or at school
• More nervous habits (bedwetting, thumb-sucking, hair-pulling, etc.)
• More physical ailments (headaches, stomach aches, flu’s & colds)
• More academic problems
• More social problemsHere are some long-term results in adults who were frequently yelled at as kids:
• More mental health problems
• More marriage and parenting problems
• More physical health problems
• More difficulties at work
• Sometimes more social issues or criminal issues

Kids who are yelled at frequently by their parents may not have a close relationship with their parents during the teen and/or adult years. Some people don’t ever talk to their parents again or have minimal contact as adults, cutting their parents off from their own children (yelling parents may lose the opportunity to have a close relationship with their own grandchildren).

How Can Parents Avoid Yelling at their Kids?

Parents who yell must interrupt the neural pathway in their brain that draws a bridge between a provocative child and the parental urge to scream. Neural pathways are physical. When a child misbehaves or doesn’t listen, a pathway is triggered (within milliseconds) and a raised voice pops out of the parent’s mouth. In order to interrupt this pathway, a parent must add a new step. Let’s say the pathway looks like this:

Child’s provocative behavior-----parents yells.

The parent can add a step like this:

Child’s provocative behavior-----parent yells---parent writes out two pages of lines “I always speak softly including those times when I feel stressed or frustrated.”

This new step of adding an annoying writing assignment actually causes the brain to drop the original pathway. The trick is to increase the negative consequence for each episode of yelling or for each week of yelling. That is, raise the assignment to 3 pages, then 4 pages, then 5 pages and keep going as necessary until all yelling has stopped. It will stop of course, because no one has time to write so many pages after each yelling episode!

Now that the parent is not yelling, he or she must have strategies with which to guide children and gain their cooperation. Not yelling is a good beginning but it is not parenting! A parent must be able to teach a child, correct a child, instruct a child and altogether raise a child! Children can not be raised on praise alone. It is, after all, necessary to assert healthy boundaries and to model the process of boundary assertion for children. However, creating healthy, respectful boundaries and limitations requires skill. Parents can learn this skill by taking parenting courses or by reading parenting books. Raise Your Kids without Raising Your Voice, for example, gives parents the 5 skills they will need in order to raise children without ever having to yell.

Five Parenting Skills that Prevent Parental Anger

1.The 80-20 Rule: 80% of parental communication feels good to the child. In this way, the child wants to please the parent. The child exhibits far fewer misbehaviors.

2.Emotional Coaching: Parents consistently name a child’s feelings. This technique creates an intimate bond between parent and child, causing the child to have a better understanding of his own feelings and the feelings of others. The result is better mental health, better physical health, better academic performance and better behavior!

3.The CLeaR Method: A good-feeling form of discipline that capitalizes on a child’s positive tendencies. By shaping desirable behavior with pleasant forms of acknowledgment, the child goes from strength to strength. The child has very little need to seek negative attention or to enter power struggles with parents.

4.The 2X-Rule: a firm but respectful form of discipline in which a parent never asks a child to do anything more than two times. By refraining from repetitive requests, the parent saves him or herself from getting angry. The 2X-Rule utilizes mild negative consequences instead of parental rage in order to gain a child’s cooperation.

5.The Relationship Rule: This rule insists on consistently respectful communication in the home from both parents and children. It helps the entire family manage their angry feelings appropriately and keeps the family emotionally safe. The rule states: “I only give and accept respectful communication.”


Is it Really Possible to Raise Kids without Yelling at Them?

Absolutely! The first step is to take the idea that yelling is damaging very seriously. The more yelling occurs, the more damage occurs.

The next step is to punish oneself for yelling. This also must be taken seriously. It is not enough to remember the idea of punishment or to remind oneself that one shouldn’t yell. In order to disrupt the harmful neural pathway, it is essential that the body/brain experiences the punishment. If a parent is willing to punish him or herself, yelling WILL BE cured!

The final step is to have a new set of strategies in place. Parents must never be left helpless. Parents need skills that will create a solid bond with their children because the bond itself increases cooperation (in addition to creating a foundation for mental health and emotional well being!). Parents also need to know how to discipline effectively and respectfully. The word “discipline” means teach. There are actually good-feeling forms of discipline as well as unpleasant feeling forms. The majority of discipline that occurs in the home should be good-feeling.

Yelling is not part of the discipline process. It is an emotional reaction on the part of a parent, indicating upset, lack of control and helpless rage. Parents are entitled to their feelings. However, feelings need attention and calming. They are not parenting tools. Parenting tools require some study and thought whereas the expression of negative emotion occurs impulsively, without thought. However, the time it takes to think and plan parenting interventions is well worth it. The positive results of this kind of thinking endure for a lifetime.

http://www.parenting-advice.net/parents/parenting_without_yelling.html

Sunday, November 20, 2011

Checklist Bersalin

Lagi 11 hari due. Boleh dikatakan semua persiapan fizikal mama dah ready. Mental? Still takleh imagine lagi, hopefully can control emo when handle 2 childs (baru 2 kan..camno la yg lebih dr ni, nk bg anak2 semua dgr kata & baik2).

Mama nak listkan persiapan bersalin utk future reference. List ni mama based on experience masa bersalin Aqil dulu & juga dr some blogs. Some item mama rasa x perlu dilistkan sebab barang Aqil yg lama masih elok & some item really tak praktikal for me.

Keperluan Penyusuan
-Breast pump (Guna Spectra 3 Electric Aqil dulu. Beli yg 2nd, dlm Rm200++).
-Storage bottles (Yg lama guna MLO tinggal beberapa biji je, so terpaksa beli lagi online kat EnjoyBreastFeed. Cuba brand BumbleBee plak sbb murah & tulisan sukatan x tanggal.RM99 for 30pcs).
-Storage plastic (In case x cukup bottles, mamah beli kat EnrjoyBF gak. Brand JinlgeJungle RM20.5 for 50 pcs).
-Ice Pack (Dulu guna yg MLO, x sure OK lg ke tak. So mama beli je 4 pcs lagi kat EnjoyBF brand SafetyPlus.Ni based on experience others mommies).
-Cooler bag (Yg dulu MLO masih OK)
-Sterilizer (Tak beli lg..depend on condition after bersalin. Klu betul2 need, baru survey)
-Food/milk warmer (Still x cari lg simpan kat mana)
-Nursing bra
-Nursing pad/cover . Washable or disposable.
-Nursing pillow.

Mama mmg dah survey, antara web pilihanibu.com, littlewhiz, MLO, momschoice, mybreastpumpshop & etc..EnjoyBF la plg murah.

Keperluan Pantang
-Jamu/Ubat mkn (Mama just guna balance Set Salindah, beli masa mabuk hari tu. Sblm ni guna Jamu Selapan Mustika Ratu. Tak mkn n guna pon. Klu ikut survey internet ramai mencadangkan Nona Roguy. Tp x semua org serasi klu menyusu anak. Kedua tertinggi set Amway.Jiran n kenalan pon ada cadangkan Leesa.Maybe next time la kot bleh cuba..)
-Ubat Luaran /minyak urut/ Pilis/ Param/Tapel (Mama just beli online kat Kak Engku-Krim Barut Herbanika NR.Minyak Herbanika mama dah beli kat kedai jamu, rugi je sbb x pt harga ahli mcm Kak Engku).
-Bengkung
-Maternity pad/ Pad yg extra long panjang with wing
-Mandian herba (Beli kat pengedar Muna herbs di Melaka)
-Serbuk tangas (Beli kat Muna herbs jugak)
-Bertungku (Amik batu sungai kat kampung je. Dulu beli yg letrik, tp mcm tak praktikal je. Klu tungku herba ramai ckp cepat sejuk).
-Kain batik
-Stokin tebal
-Water heater/air panas

Keperluan Bayi (Mostly Aqil punye dulu masih ok)
-Newborn diapers
-Baju & seluar panjang
-Baju & seluar pendek
-Mitten & Booties
-Barut bayi (Suh mak sedara opismate buat 20 pcs, Rm3.50/pcs)
-Bedung/selimut (Beli kain cotton flannel & jahit sendiri)
-Lampin kain
-Topi
-Stokin
-Tuala
-Set tilam & bantal bayi
-Kelambu
-Hanger bulat besar & kecil
-Bakul simpanan baju bayi

Mandian/Cucian Bayi
-Toiletries (Better head to toe bb bath. Cuba yg murah2 dulu sbb kulit bb sensitif, maybe some brand tak serasi, kena asyik tukar2)
-Bath tub
-Pengalas mandian utk elak licin (not necessary but depend on condition)
-Wet tissue
-Cotton buds bb
-Cotton wools in ball shapes (utk cuci tali pusat)
-Minyak bayi/telon (Beli Tropical Herbs Bb Oil Amway, juga dr Kak Engku).
-Anti rash cream (depend jugak.Aqil serasi ngan Drapolene)
-Changing mat
-Sikat/pemotong kuku/bedak/lotion (not necessary. Depend condition & hadiah2 hamper yg diterima nti. Stok Aqil dulu pon mash byk. Tak apply pon kat bb.Sikat x digalakkan nti gigi bayi jarang,petua la).

Others option (bleh tunggu hadiah2 dulu n depend on keperluan)
-Beg bayi
-Car seat/Stroller/Bouncer (Aqil lama masih OK)

List Mama ke hospital
-Kad klinik
-Kertas Cina & plastik pengalas. klu GH mmg dah ada.
-Jubah/Baju pregnant
-Tudung
-Pakaian Balik
-kain batik
-Stokin
-Nursing bra
-Breast pad/cover
-Panties.Washable & disposable.
-Sweater
-Maternity pad
-Selipar
-Tuala
-Toiletries (Syampu,mandian,ubt gg,berus gg)
-Telekung & sejadah
-Camera/HP/Charger (better suami yg pegang la)
-Sikat/Getah rambut/Skaf
-Botol air kosong & termos
-Air zam2/selusuh/akar fatimah
-Biskut/Roti
-Plastik bag/laundry
-Breast pump & bottles (klu duk lama spital)

List bb di hospital
-3 pasang baju seluar
-3 pasang mitten booties
-3 pcs barut
-2 helai lampin
-2 bedung/selimut
-10 keping diapers
-Topi/stokin
-Tuala
-Baby wipes
-Minyak bayi
-Toiletries
-Kurma/madu

Kali ni mama betul2 nk breastfeed secara eksklusif Amina, at least 1 tahun. Harap impian ni tercapai.Klu masa boleh diputar balik, mama sanggup berenti keja supaya Aqil tak berenti susu & kurus mcm sekarang.Maafkan mama ye Aqil.

Mama jugak nekad, nk pantang betul2. dapatkn body masa remaja dulu, hik hik hik kurus gilos. Impian tinggi, tp tak dpt 100% pon redha. Janji sihat, tak sakit2 badan, resdung hilang, kaki tak cramp & kebas lg.Chaiyok2!!


Sunday, November 6, 2011

Kami di pagi Aidiladha

Sgt tak meriah beraya di Melaka ni. Surau kat taman tak dgr pon takbir. Pagi2 sunyi je. Even smpai skang, kul 1 pm masih takde kanak2 dtg beraya. Sape la nak abiskan bihun goreng sekuali ni..


Resipi bihun goreng Singapore ni mama amik dr fotopages Chef Hanieliza tp not 100% la sbb ada bahan yg kurang (kedai tutup hari raya) & ada bahan yg mama replace.



Bahan & method
1.Rendam sekampit ~500g bihun dlm air panas. Bila lembut toskan.

2.Tumbuk 1 sudu lada hitam, 1 ulas bwg merah, 3 ulas bwg putih, 1 sudu ikan bilis. Tumiskan.

3.Masukkan ayam yg dah dipotong kecil sehingga masak.
4.Masukkan potongan kobis & carrot. Klu ada sawi lg bagus. Ada la gak kaler hijau.

5.Masukkan bihun + garam + gula secukup rasa.Siap.

6.Masa hidang, susun la potongan telur dadar & tabur hirisan cili merah.







Bihun goreng Singapore. Klu nk kasi budak2 mkn, kurangkan lada hitam.


Lepas sarap, mama baring tgk tv je. Nak basuh pinggan pon x larat rasa. Abis satu movie Raya, mama basuh katil baby. Aqil plak mandi 'kolam' dpn rumah.





Papa plak lps solat Raya & sarap,terus sambung keja hias laman. Sblm ni punyer la semak smpi kena tegur ngan pegawai Majlis Daerah. Mama just sponsor batu slab 10 pcs (RM30/pc). Papa sponsor rumput karpet (RM1.5/feet) & batu kecik2 (RM25/bag). Tenaga kerja..papa sorang. Kita tunggu la hasilnye nti.



Mama plak ptg ni rasanya akan sambung siapkan bantal kepala Amina lg sebiji.Dah siap sarung tilam, sarung bantal tepi 2 biji & sarung bantal kepala sebiji.


Thursday, November 3, 2011

Amina Safiyyah ready to launch

Hari ni Amina berumur 36 weeks 2 days. Lebih 2 hari 9 bulan. Tempoh matang untuk bersalin (within w36~w40). Klu ikut experience mama lahirkan Aqil dulu, minggu w38. Klu ikutkan kontraksi, rasa mcm dah dekat sgt..tp org2 berpengalaman kata lmbt lagi sbb perut tak jatuh. Dia judge jarak antara breast & perut should be within 2 lapisan susunan tgn.

Raya haji kali ni wlpn dpt cuti byk..tp tk leh balik jugak sbb keadaan mama yg berisiko.Kontraksi n bb mengeras2 klu keta bergegar, langar bumper etc. Kak long (kak ipar) ckp anak no 2 nye susah nk bersalin, terpaksa guna forcep sbb jln jauh masa pregnant. Jiran dpn umah (Mak Siti) pon risaukan nti kedudukan bayi songsang sbb bergegar2 byk. Klu ikut doc scan tadi, kepala Amina dah ke bawah, means at the right position.



Scan masa kandungan 33 weeks. Amina tido time ni. Weight 2kg.







Hari ni scan, doc bgth weight Amina dah 2.5 kg. Mama risau bb underweight.Kata doc, still normal & masih sempat bertambah.

About tiroid, doc ckp normal. Berbeza ngan pendapat GH sbb reference range berbeza. Details history:


7 June - TSH:<0.005, T4:170.5, T3:2.45.

Consider hypertiroid masa 2nd time admited ward.


29 June- TSH:0.01, T4:10.37.

Oct baru dpt result af f/up.Abnormal sbb kedua2 result lower spec.So kena retest semula.


12 Oct- TSH:0.44, T4:11.45.

Still abnormal wlpn TSH increase.Kena refer pakar kat GH.Tp tak pegi pon sbb kena hari keja n takde org nk drive jejauh.


15 Oct- TSH:0.29, T4:8.70, T3:1.35.

Re-check kat Pantai. Kos RM103.Result lower dr GH, tp doc ckp normal sbb within spec.


Spec GH- TSH: 0.85~6.5, T4: 12~22

Spec Pantai - TSH: 0.35~4.94, T4: 4.87~11,72, T3: 0.58~1.58


So mama consider closed for this thyroid case. Takmo pikir byk2 lagi as long as both sihat & mama nk concentrate persiapan bb plak. Doakan kami berdua selamat & sihat. Semoga mama senang bersalin kali ni.